Becoming Burnham
A blended family, big feelings, mental health days, and grief that shows up uninvited. Becoming Burnham is messy, honest, healing, and very us.
Episodes
22 episodes
22 - The Mid-Chapter "Girl Dad"
Most parenting advice assumes you were there from the beginning. But what happens when you come into a child's life mid chapter and have to earn something that other parents just automatically get?In this episode Kat and Kyle g...
21 - The Myth of the Spoon Fed Husband
A few episodes back Kat revealed that she handles the entire family calendar — coordinating directly with Sam, sending Kyle the invites, and keeping the whole operation running. The internet had a lot to say about it. So in this episode ...
20 - Ella Bella Ballerina Fairy Princess
We planned a birthday episode for Ella turning fifteen. We had the outline, the questions, the whole thing was ready. Then one question stopped everything — what are you excited about? What do you want in this next chapter?
19 - Lunch is Your Problem Now
Every parent hits that moment sometime in May where summer suddenly feels very close and very real and slightly terrifying. You've got the end of year chaos still happening, you're trying to figure out what summer actually looks like, an...
18 - Kids Say The Darndest Things
If you've ever frozen in public because of something that just came out of your kid's mouth — this episode is for you.Kat and Sam are sharing the moments their kids said the thing nobody was ready for. The embarrassing, the unh...
17 - Moms Deserve More Than Brunch
This one's equal parts hug and honest conversation. We're not doing the highlight reel version of Mother's Day — the brunch, the flowers, the performance of gratitude. We're doing the real one.Kat and Sam are ge...
16 - Thanks For the Advice. We're Not Taking It.
This isn’t your grandmother’s parenting podcast. In Episode 16, we’re burning the manual. We’re diving into the "unfiltered" reality of being a millennial mom and breaking down all the outdated, toxic, or just plain weird advice we’ve been g...
15 - Logins, Love and Living Next Door
“From the outside, it looks like a puzzle. From the inside, it’s just Tuesday.” Today, we’re talking to Kat and Sam about their "Family Pretzel." They live next door, they share everything from pets to passwords, and they’ve ...
14 - Two Generations, One Story
This isn’t the kind of “friends with benefits” you think you know. In Episode 14, we’re moving past the "Petty Wars" to dive into a topic that defines the very core of this family: Adoption. We are exploring two mirror-image journeys—Kat, wh...
13 - Petty Wars: Sister Wives Adjacent
This isn’t the kind of “friends with benefits” you think you know. In Episode 13, the ex-wife and the current wife prove that choosing peace doesn't mean choosing silence. We’re diving into the "marital-but-not-marital" chaos of two women wh...
12 - What to Expect When You Are Expecting... Nothing Accurate
This isn’t your typical medical-grade parenting guide. In Episode 12, we tackle a massive list of pregnancy and parenting questions sent in by our UK besties, Josh and his girlfriend. From the "belly button draft" to why your one-month-old's...
11- If I don't Laugh, I'll Cry
This week, I’m taking you through the wild, chaotic, unbelievable collection of stories that built me: three marriages, discovering I was adopted at 36, cancer, miscarriage, raising six kids in four different eras, losing my home in a tornado, ...
10 - The Long After
In this episode, Kat and Kyle open up about the long road of recovery — the months and years after disaster when most people have moved on but the grief hasn't. They talk honestly about what community support actually looked like, who showed...
9 - If You're in the After, This One is for You
This episode dives into the first days after child loss — the shock response, the physical symptoms of grief, the disorientation of the first 24 hours, the logistics no one prepares you for, and the emotional impact on surviving children. Ka...
8 - Strength in the Shadows
This episode of Friends with Benefits is a deeply moving exploration of survival, maternal instinct, and the unbreakable bond of family. Following our introduction to Arlan, we move into the day of the storm—a day that...
7 - Before The Sirens
In this first episode of our three-part series, we step into the life of Arlan, a child whose love and curiosity left a lasting mark on his family and community. Together with his mother, Kat, we explore the ordinary moments of family life, ...
6 - Roll Call: The Kids Who Built Our Village
Three moms, seven kids, and one loud, blended village. In this episode, we introduce the kids who brought us together, share the chaos of daily life, confess our most unhinged parenting hacks, and compare how each of us handles the same pare...
5 - Love Is A Hot Mess
It’s Valentine’s season, so we’re talking love, relationships, and all the mess in between. In this episode, we share our best/worst dates, awkward dating stories, love language truths, and what we’ve learned about showing up in real rel...
4 - Kyle, The Man, The Myth, The Legend
Kyle’s birthday month always feels like it’s competing with Valentine’s Day — and somehow Valentine’s always wins.In this episode, we try to give his day the spotlight it deserves. We share stories about the man behind the spre...
3 - Y'all Read Way Too Much Into This
Turns out people have opinions. A lot of them.In this episode, we’re diving into the wildest comments, assumptions, and theories from our first episode.Some of it is funny. Some of it is just plain wild. And some ...